Working on your online dating profile might seem pointless, especially if you’ve been on more than a few dates. But trust us: taking the time to refine your profile can make a big difference in your results.
Here are some of the most common online dating mistakes people make and how to fix them:
- Not Having a Good Profile Picture
Your profile picture is the first thing potential matches will see when they browse your profile, so it’s important to make a good impression. Make sure your picture is clear, well-lit, and shows you at your best. And avoid selfies at all costs – they’re just not flattering.
- Writing a Bad Profile
Your profile is your chance to sell yourself to potential matches, so putting your best foot forward is important. Avoid listing negative traits (like “I’m not good at online dating”), and focus on highlighting what makes you unique and interesting. It’s also important to be honest – if you’re not looking for a serious relationship, don’t say you are. Be upfront about what you’re looking for, and you’ll attract better matches.
- Not Messaging Potential Matches
Just because someone likes your profile doesn’t mean they’ll message you. If interested in someone, take the initiative and send them a message. Don’t be afraid to be creative – try starting a conversation with a shared interest, or asking a question about something on their profile.
- Messaging Too Much
Once you start messaging back and forth with someone, it’s easy to get carried away and start bombarding them with messages. But resist the urge to do this – it’s overwhelming, and chances are good they won’t respond anyway. Instead, keep your messages short and sweet, and only send a few daily.
- Not Meeting In Person
Meeting in person is the best way to gauge whether there’s chemistry between you and potential matches. If you’re not ready to meet yet, that’s OK, but don’t wait too long – eventually, you’ll need to take the plunge and meet in person to see if there’s a spark.
- Meeting In Person Too Soon
Conversely, meeting in person too soon can also be a mistake. If you’ve only been messaging for a few days, it’s probably best to wait a bit longer before meeting up. This way, you’ll have more to talk about and are less likely to feel disappointed if there’s no chemistry in person.
- Being Disrespectful
Treat potential matches with respect, even if things don’t work out. Don’t send angry or insulting messages if someone doesn’t respond to you – it’s not worth it and reflects badly on you. Likewise, don’t ghost someone after exchanging a few messages – if you’re not interested, just let them know politely and move on.
- Not Following Through
If you’ve made plans to meet with someone, follow through and show up. It’s easy to flake out, especially if you’re not feeling particularly invested in the match, but it’s not very considerate (and it reflects badly on you). If you’re not interested in meeting up, just cancel or reschedule instead of ghosting.
- Being inconsiderate
When meeting someone for the first time, it’s important to be respectful and considerate of their time and space. Don’t show up late, don’t cancel at the last minute, and don’t monopolize the conversation. Also, ensure you’re taking care of your own needs – don’t put yourself in a position where you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
- Not Being Yourself
Finally, the most important thing to remember is to be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, and don’t pretend to be interested in something just because you think it will make you more attractive to potential matches. Be honest about who you are and what you’re looking for, and you’ll attract the right kind of people.